Financial planning involves assessments about risk. The financial risks women face, and their ways of dealing with those risks, are different from men’s. This is due to very real biological, psychological, and cultural distinctions between the sexes.
As women, we
• Live longer
• Often suffer financially as a result of divorce, whereas the finances of divorcing men are apt to improve
• Are likely to live alone for a significant period of time, by choice or circumstance
• Move in and out of the workplace, resulting in serious gaps in insurance coverage and retirement plan participation
• Are better educated than men, but gravitate toward “safer,” less well-paid careers
• Are the primary caretakers of the dependent young and old
• Are more are more apt to be risk-averse when it comes to investing
Clearly, planning tools, assumptions, and focus must change way when advisors work with women.
The way we talk about women’s financial issues needs to change, too. Women’s perception and learning styles are different from men’s, but so often advisors fail to take this into account. Research has shown that men learn independently, while women learn well in supportive, collaborative environments. Men are apt to learn by doing, whereas women often stand back, listen and observe. They want to read the manual before turning on the computer.
We also know that men and women find their social identity in different ways. A man has an inherent need for competition and hierarchy in order to understand where he fits in the world: “Am I ahead of or behind the other guy?” A women, on the other hand, is more likely to find her meaning in community, and wishes to put herself on the same emotional and intellectual plane as others.
The male preference for competition may explain why the terminology of personal finance – and most particularly that of the male-dominated field of investing – is dominated by themes of winning and losing. It explains, too, the frequent use of benchmarks to evaluate investment performance. Men are more apt to ask if their portfolio did better or worse than the S&P 500 in a given quarter. When presented with the same numbers, women ask instead, “But what does this mean?” They are not asking for that meaning to be measured in basis points, but in terms of the effects on their lifestyle, their children, their plans for the next vacation.
How then can women’s distinct cognitive and emotional styles be brought to bear on financial advice? Here are some ideas for the financial advisory community to consider (or for you, as a women, to ask for from your advisor):
• Educate, but don’t teach. Provide books, websites, articles that support and illustrate the financial planning strategies you are recommending
• Empower. Share stories, especially your own, of situations similar to those your women client is facing. Women often feel alone and fearful about their finances. Examples of shared experience go a long way to assure her otherwise. Her problems are normal and have solutions.
• Engage. Don’t just provide advice, but involve her in the implementation. Have her contact the attorney, set up the investment account, call in a stock or fund purchase.
These ideas seem simple and obvious, but too many women report that they are not getting this kind of attention from their advisors. A less obvious, but emerging, concept – expressly designed for women – is to create circles where money attitudes and issues can be freely discussed. These are not seminars. Again the purpose is not to provide unidirectional advice, but safe places where women can create communal wisdom about a subject they often feel excluded from.
There’s no doubt that women’s economic power is growing and growing quickly. They are on track to control more than 60 percent of US wealth, and represent a majority in the labor force. Wall Street and investment advisors can only ignore these numbers at their own peril; The time has come to change the personal finance conversation for women.
